“When I get married, when I find the right job, when I hit the lottery, when I get a new home…I’ll be happy.” You’ve probably said something like this at some point in your life– I know I have. So many people get caught up in this mind set. You work your butt off trying to achieve a goal that you think will make you happy, only to find that when you achieved said goal, something was missing. You may have felt happy for a while, but that accomplishment soon began to fade and you went looking for some other diversion to give you that happiness fix.
How is it that people who have very little seem to be so content with their lives? Is it wrong to want more? Of course not. But our lives do not consist of the abundance of the things we possess.
Simply put, Happiness is a choice. I believe it is the state of positive well-being and contentment we feel when we can appreciate what we already have–rather than lusting after what we do not have. The truth is, when you decide to happy, you put yourself in a position for the success you’ve always wanted.
I had always wanted to be married, thinking that my husband would complete my life. It was only after I made the decision to be happy with my life- whether I was married or single- that my love came along. And by then, I was in no rush because I already had what I was looking for: I was truly happy- Husband just added to it. This gave me the motivation to find that same contentment in other areas of my life. It isn’t always easy, but its never boring!
Here’s what I’ve learned about being happy even when you’re dealing with a challenge:
- Get the focus off of yourself. Go do something nice for someone else and notice how much better you feel.
- Reflect on the positive things that happen to you each day. Even the smallest things can have a great impact.
- Excercise. Physical activity releases endorphins into your blood stream which make you feel better.
- Take mental health breaks daily. Get by yourself for a few minutes, close your eyes and breath deeply.
- Surround yourself with things that make you smile. Pictures of family, friends, favorite places, funny sayings- take time to look at these things and appreciate the joy they bring.
I’m feeling happier just sharing this with you, and I hope that you can pass these tips along to someone else who may be having that pity party for one. We can truly be happy but like anything else, it takes time and practice. I hope your journey to happiness is a good one.
Until next time, stay well and enjoy the balance of your day!