From the time you wake up until the time you go to bed at night, somebody somewhere is trying to get a piece of your mind. You know: get you to do something for them that you really don’t have to do. Companies, advertisers and even politicians spend millions of dollars to get that coveted ‘piece of your mind’ because they can then influence your actions, whether spending, voting, etc. The same concept holds true for relationships. “Let me get that phone number.” “I just need a place to crash for a day or two.” “Baby, can you loan me some money?” “Let me hit that tonight.” As life coach and motivational speaker Iyanla Vanzant once said, “Where the mind goes, the behind will follow.”
So, who’s leading your behind around?
We’ve all fallen victim at some point, and found ourselves doing the “walk of shame” because we got played by someone who didn’t deserve the privilege of our company or consideration. There’s no point in beating yourself up over it if it’s already happened. But you can make the decision not to let it happen again. It’s as simple as asking yourself three questions before you respond to them:
1) What does this other person get out of it?
2) What do I get out of it?
3) How will this decision affect me in the future?
When it comes to you and your personal life, you have to think long-term. That piece of your mind (or piece of anything else) you’re about to give up could cause you major problems down the road.
How well do you know this person? How much do you trust this person? If you’re a parent, how will your child be affected by this decision? It goes deeper than you think.
Since we all know that a mind is a terrible thing to waste, be careful of who you give a piece to. If you’re doing all the giving and getting little in return, it’s time to cut them off and get your mind whole again.
I know from experience that this is not always easy because your feelings are deeply involved. But once you get your piece of mind back, you’ll also have your peace of mind again.
Love to you, and as always, enjoy the balance of your day.